I will share a secret with you, the best way to lose weight and to keep it off, is to stop trying to lose weight. You heard me!
Of course, I don’t mean by that to stop eating well and exercise. What I mean is that you need to have another objective than to simply get a couple of pounds off the balance. If you train to be in better shape, to go skiing with your friends or playing with your child, if you eat well everyday so that you feel more confident and love yourself, these are good reasons and motivations! Why do you want to lose weight so badly? Is it because society thinks being fat is ugly or is it because you want to feel proud of yourself ? To accomplish something and do it for you?
If you try to just lose weight because this is what society think is pretty or normal, then you are doing it all for the wrong reasons and you will most likely fail at your attempt. You need to do it for yourself, to feel good, to be confident, in shape, to feel proud of your accomplishments, never try to lose weight or get in shape for anybody else than you!
Will I lose more weight if getting pounds off is not my #1 objective?
Yes! You might think that when your mind is onto something, like losing weight, you will get it off and you don’t need any other motivation. Well, you might lose a couple pounds at first, but if you don’t have any other objective than being skinny, you will rapidly get either bored of all that exercise, miss that lovely cheesecake or think you’ve lost enough and don’t need to do any efforts anymore. It won’t be long before you return to your old habits and gain back everything you lost, maybe more.
It can also be very frustrating, after some months of training and clean eating, when you don’t lose as much weight as you used to. The 4 pounds you used to lose in a week, takes you a month, or two. You start to think it’s not worth it anymore and you stop. Truth is, maybe you were gaining muscle, or your body just started to get too used to your training and you needed a change in your exercises, but you were doing great! When the number on the balance is the only thing that keeps you going, it can rapidly kill your motivation. So don’t rely on it too much, it’s just a number. You well being, your confidence, how you feel in your skin, this is the true reward!
A sustainable weight lost have to be a complete change of your habits. You will not want to change your entire life for a couple pounds, but you will want to do it for your children, for yourself, to feel confident or accomplished. Keep those objective in mind everyday!